Category: Dating and Relationships
I have a loaded question. What would you do if you were chasing these guys that were just second best and kept getting hurt when you know that there is someone you would rather try to be with but you feel that they are out of your league. Meaning, you don't think they could possibly feel the same. Do you continue to just admire them from a distance, or would you tell them how you feel, or would you just sit back and see if they come to you? Do you just wait it out, or do you tell him he's an amazing, sweet, awesome man who's got it all together, and he makes your heart stop? I'm just curious as to what some of you would do.
well it depends. if the person and you are already friends, then telling him how you feel could potentially affect your friendship if he doesn't feel the same.
never settle though, because if you have feelings for someone, then the other guys are just there to fill a void and you're not being fair to them either.
put yourself in the position. how would you feel if you found out the guy you were with was only with you because the girl he wanted didn't want him?
Fear is healthy, do not become a prisoner to your fear. You won't know till you try.
i've always believed that honesty is the best polacy! so good luck! *smiles*
Hey a guy that is out of my league? How did you know him, I bet you are friends with him. I know what to do. In senior year I had a seatmate in Economics class. Smart, good looking, and friendly. Thank God before the semester ended there was an opportunity to get to know him more. It was a marriage partner and my teacher asigned me to him as his wife, smiles, anyway he was really nice the whole time, and everyone thinks good about him. So, it was Christmas time. So, I decided to give him a present for being nice to me the whole semester. I gave him a book light and a letter and after that semester ended were still good friends. You see its all about taking a risk. Sometimes taking a risk is worth than not even trying.
Oh there’s another one that I want to tell you. These happened Junior year. A popular guy just suddenly started to say hi to me, every time he sees me, anyway it was in my Environmental class. So, it was fun, anyway this guy I don’t even know him but he looks good as in really good brown haired blue eyed guy and smart too. Yeah I know he was so popular among the girls but I was not the one to approach me, he was always the one who started some conversation. His really cool. Ok on Turn About, his last dance was me, even though he had girls all around him. He was a senior at that time and since his leaving I decided to give him a watch just a going away present and we still talk till now. I think if you step out of your comfort zone then you’ll get to try lots of things. Like being more confident when the guy you like starts to talk to you. Just remember if you like him go for him. If he has someone then at least be a friend. Friendship is better than nothing. Trust me.
hmm, i'll observe him for sometime before i take any acction. maybe i have the kind of clasic and tradition thinking... or you can put it as i am afraid to be hurts smiles.
Bridgette!!! Tell him!!! I would if I were you. But then again, I am always for the honesty. If you don't act awkward around him after you tell him, chances are that you two can still remain good friends!!! Also, you won't know if he feels the same if you don't let him know how you feel. A lot of guys have been told by me that I really had the hotts for them and we are still great friends!!! However, my affections went toward another guy after I found out that he wasn't what I thought I fancied. Don't go out with a guy because he is second best!!! Go for the prize Bridgette!!! You're an awesome person and I'm sure you will win his affections in the end!!! Good luck girl and huggles from me to you!!!
*sexy*
I'd tell him, too! I always tell those hot hot guys that I want them! Like, once, there was this really huge 7 foot 9 guy with muscles bulging all over his body... Oh my god, he just made my blood boil to no end. So I went up, got on my tippy toes, rested my head on his knee, and asked him to marry me... Oh! Oops! Well, if the question might be reversed, I think I'd actually shut off my emotions. For me, it is better to shut the door than to chance them ignoring the open doorway. But, if I'm advising for anyone else, I'd say be caucious. Observe the grounds, survey the surrounding woods... and if the prey in question is the right one, home in and conquer!
one thing get to know him first, be one of his friend and then be honest. it will work if not then the chances are good that your still going to be friends. because you were honest. guys like girls that are honest and strait forward. good luck.
Well, I decided to keep it to my self, and not tell him. I believe for a few reasons that this would be best. There are a few reasons why I believe he wouldn't be with me, it's not personal per say, it's just preference and all. So, in this case, I think maybe some things are better left unsaid. I'm not willing to ruin a friendship for something that could never happen. so I'm staying forever silent.
Oh I would b etoo shy to tell them I guess. I guess I would sit back and wait if they get to me. Although - after some time I might tell them, don't know honestly.
um bridgette you know how I stand on this topic! Tell him! tell him tell him! You won't know unless you tell him. And he's not the type to just blow you off if he doesn't feel the same way! Your friendship wont be affected! smile- angel!
LOL. I know that Sissy. ehehe,I know him well enough to know that, but well you know the reasons. hehe. Maybe he'll come to me. LOL. ahahahah, I'm dreaming of course.
if you call him he will come! heheheh hugs! angel
hahahah Yep!! I say, tell him too!!! Like I said, I have my own suspicions about how he feels!!! Tell him!!!
*sexy*
Bridgette, I had this one problem too. I told one of my best guy friends I liked him. OOps. Well, a long story short, we're still friends. I f this guy wouldn't mind you asking him out, or if he would remain friends with you no matter what, tell him. Good luck. hugs.
Well, all, I sort of told him, okay, but in a round about way, but I'm going to just come out with it. Better than that, I will say it with my own voice. I can't get him off of my mind, so what ever time may bring, sink or swim, I'm going to close my eyes, take a deep breath, and open my mouth and let the words fly out. No more beating around the bush. This will take emense courage, but it will be done. :)
I would just honestly straight out tell him and if it's that guy I admire, he'll like it and if he's not, well, he can react however he likes.